I do perform a light screen of all new friends for my safety, this is also non-negotiable. There are 3 ways to verify your identity. First and usually the quickest and easiest is employment info. Dont worry I do not intend to contact your boss or anything like that. Second is a reference from a verifiable, reputable provider you have seen in the recent past. Please include any details that you may think will help spark her memory of your time with her along with her contact details. Third would be your handle/id on P411 or other similar sites, sometimes they are adequate depending on your reputation/history. Rest assured I am very discreet and careful and I do not keep any of your details beyond our time together.